When we disagree with loved ones about their life choices and use covert tactics to manipulate the decision to align with our idea of what is right for them, we are not protecting them, even if we claim otherwise. What we are really doing is trying to control the person.

Instead let’s have an honest open conversation with them to explain our concerns and fears. Listen to their reasons in return. And in the end, if we still disagree, depending on what we want to prioritise, we can choose either to walk away or support them. This is hard but it is the right thing to do. The level of trust in the relationship and our own sense of morality will be better for it.