Have you observed how we often joke, generalize, blame and overall display unnuanced human behavior when conversing in groups, but if we take a walk and speak with someone one-on-one, the discussion shows depth and empathy?

There is a reason why these heart-to-heart conversations, as we call them, leave us feeling more connected and satisfied with a new level of appreciation and understanding for the other person. When we are in groups, we generalize and joke because we are strongly influenced by peer behavior and don’t want to be left out or appear naive in front of our friends. Sometimes, it is also because discussing in groups with a wide diversity of opinions can derail into arguments really quickly. Cue switchtracking. On the other hand, in personal intimate conversations, we tend to be more open and honest about our thougts and emotions. We empathise and respond better to what we hear.

I have always enjoyed large gatherings of friends. But this quarantine has made me appreciate the value of personal conversations. The few such talks I have had left me feeling a deep sense of connection and fulfillment.

That’s one of my goals for this year – deeper engagement.